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Who Ever Said Tough Love Doesn't Work?
By Gina D.
I dont know about you, but when I came up my parents always taught us to respect and mind our elders, and that we were to be seen and not heard, as well as being honest, and not taking what didnt belong to us. We were taught to be responsible and work for what we wanted. Most of todays youth are considered the spoiled generation. Why is that? Probably because we want to give them everything that we didnt have. Of course we meant well, but have we hurt our children in the long run? Do they understand the true value of the dollar? Do they appreciate things when they are just handed things on a silver platter? I think not. Alot of them have become so materialistic. Everything they have must be a name brand product. They dont take care of their belongings because they didnt have to pay for them. I read an article once where a father had enough of his 18 year old spoiled daughter's demands for expensive things. He decided to show her some tough love. So he sent her to live with a family in Africa for a week. Here she went with her whole set of Louis Vuitton lugggage in tow. Of course she wasnt leaving behind her makeup, electric curling iron and blow dryer. To her surprise, the family she was going to stay with didnt even have electricity. Her bed was a pallet on the floor in the corner of the families one room home. Yes, I did say one room home. The family didnt treat her any differently than their own two children. She had chores just like everyone else did. Once she finished having her crying temper tantrum, which the mother ignored. She asked her if she was ready to go to the river to fetch the water they were going to need for the day. Long story short, the young girl learned a valuable lesson. The one thing that she saw, was that even though this poor African family didnt have a big house or the riches and material things that she took for granted. She saw their pride for the few things that they did have, as well as the love this family had for one another. Her father saw a big change when she returned. She no longer asked him for money. She went out and got a job and is now saving her money so she can return to Africa to help this family build a larger home and a schoolhouse for the other village children. Who said tough love doesn't work.......... |
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I believe in tough love, although sending the daughter to Africa was a little extreme. Parents should require their children to do some community work before doling out money or buying expensive things. A day working in a soup kitchen, working for Habitat for Humanity, joining a group trash pick-up day, or caring for animals in an animal shelter would work wonders and make kids realize how lucky they are.
Really liked your contribution to the "tough love" philosophy. See my response.
This is a great story. I think it's a great thing they did, and have no doubt that the young woman's life will be more meaningful forever because of the precious lessons she learned. She deserves a lot of credit for wanting to stay connected with her second family, and making the commitment to dedicate serious time and energy to help them. It illustrates that riches of the spirit are ultimately more compelling than material riches, and in fact, kids that have everything handed to them are probably not happy at a deep level, because humans hunger for meaning and connection.
This Intel reminds me of the story The Prince and the Pauper written by Mark Twain.
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