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Why are divorce rates increasing?
By Gina D.
Did you ever wonder why the divorce rate in the United States is so high? Every time you turn on your TV or read a magazine, you see yet another celebrity couple heading to divorce court. It's no surprise how easy getting a divorce can be nowadays. You have the "quickie divorce" where you can fly to Vegas or Mexico and just get it over with right then and there. Or you can go online and file for your divorce without even leaving your home. Pretty sad huh? Statistics show that some first time marriages end within the first five to seven years, while some second, third and even fourth marriages end up on the chopping block within three years.
Here are some of the main reasons for divorce: Financial problems within the marriage. It always seems that one partner within the marriage is the spender and the other partner is the saver. This partnership can be considered a bad mix if spending habits cannot be agreed upon from the onset of the marriage. Irreconcilable differences. This could be caused by several different reasons. The two main reasons are, not being compatible, meaning you just don't have a thing in common with each other. The other reason being a total breakdown in communication. I'm sure that at one point in your life you've all had friends or even a complete stranger complain and discuss their personal and/or marital problems with you, but yet they can't seem to discuss these same problems or issues with their husbands or wifes. Why is that? And then there's Adultery. When a husband or wife cheats on their spouse, the trust within the marriage has been breached thus causing in most cases an automatic breakdown of the marriage... Unfortunately, divorce seems to be the best and only solution in some cases. Once it's over, its over. So now what do we do? We have to learn to just let go of all the hurts, anger, and pain that we have endured. Pick up the pieces and then just move on to bigger and better things. Yes my friends, there is life after divorce.......
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Contributor's Note
This article is based on my own observations of life in general. Divorce is becoming an epidemic. When will it all end?
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The reasons for divorce couldn't possibly be covered in one intel. However, my take on divorce is that friendships seldom last a lifetime - why expect more of marriage, which frequently doesn't even have the solid basis of a friendship to start with?
Sound like you have expirienced one, or someone of your close did.
The MAIN reason for divorce is none of the above. Those are just symptoms and the excuses people use. The real problem is that most people nowadays think when they run into problems the answer is to run away from them and start again. They don't realize that staying and fighting the problems as a team will strengthen their love and respect for one another and thus the marriage as well. GrumpyOldTrucker
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I like your way of thinking.
I just lost my husband of 42 years to cancer, so it is hard to understand how one can say, "...friendships seldom last a lifetime." I believe ours would have lasted a lifetime if it were not for the cancer. I believe too many people give up to easily because today's society is a "throw away" society. We use things, they break or wear out and we toss. We seldom fix anything. Marriage requires constant communication. Sometimes we have to repair something we may have broke whether intentional or otherwise. It requires a lot of "I am sorry", "I forgive you", and "I love you".
I don't think divorce is the problem. I think the problem is two unqualified people coming together and getting married which causes the divorce.
Attitudes today are all about the individual, self-fullfillment and personal gain. No longer do most people look on marriage as a commitment, or understand that a relationship has to be worked at; falling in love is transitory and fades, and many think it's all over once that happens, working together as a team doesn't come into it.
Celebrity marriages are doomed from the start; two major egos full of self love are never going to know what real love for another is. Flawed personalities produce flawed ralationships.
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